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©2024 The Enneagram in BusinessThe Enneagram in Business Mini-Bookby Ginger Lapid-Bogda PhDFixationsHabits of Mind Vengeanceparteight

In the Enneagram system, Fixations, or habits of mind, areconsidered the key mental patterns or compulsions thatcharacterize each of the nine personality types. These fixationsare essentially thought patterns that can lead to imbalances orchallenges in how individuals perceive themselves, others, andthe world. Understanding and addressing these fixations is acentral part of using the Enneagram for personal growth. Why is it important to recognize that all of us engage in thehabits of mind normally associated with specific Enneagramstyles? By studying all the Fixations, not just the one associatedwith our type, we can become aware of how that fixation maydistort our behavior and worldview, leading to many powerfulpaths for self-development. In part eight of this nine book series, you’ll read how each of thenine Enneagram types engage in the Fixation of Vengeance.Vengeance: the mental processof rebalancing wrongs throughthoughts related to anger,blame, and intimidation.

Type eightWe typically associate Vengeance with Eight,because it is the fixation or repeating mentalpattern for Enneagram Eight.Here is the way in which Eights engage inthinking that can be understood as theirversion of Vengeance:Vengeance inciters: Thinking someone has (1) tread on thedown-trodden, (2) illegitimately challenged their authority,(3) not taken responsibility for their own negative behavior,or (4) been untruthful and untrustworthyVengeance behavior-related thoughts: Thinking abouthow to gain control and authority as a way to disempowerthat person and put the other in his or her placeThe development work for going beyond Vengeance:Ask yourself this question - Am I sharing my feelings ofvulnerability and showing my softer sides to both myself andothers?Habits of Mind

Type nineHere is the way in which Nines engage inthinking that can be understood as theirversion of Vengeance:Vengeance inciters: Thinking someone has (1) chronicallydisrupted the peace and harmony, (2) been rude to themor others, particularly more than once, (3) ignored them,especially in a disrespectful way, or (4) pressured,demanded or tried to control the NineVengeance behavior-related thoughts: Thinking abouthow to keep the other person at a distance and from tryingto control the Nine, often through passive-aggressivebehaviorThe development work for going beyond Vengeance:Ask yourself this question - Am I taking a clear stand onissues and expressing my thoughts and feelings directly,especially my anger?vengeance

Here is the way in which Ones engage inthinking that can be understood as theirversion of Vengeance:Vengeance inciters: Thinking someone has (1) criticizedthem, (2) not acted responsibly, (3) taken arbitrary control,or (4) lied to themVengeance behavior-related thoughts: Accusations andblame that often get verbalized or displayed in strong bodylanguage of disapproval and dismissalThe development work for going beyond Vengeance:Ask yourself this question - Am I listening with an openheart and open mind?Habits of Mind Type one

Here is the way in which Twos engage inthinking that can be understood as theirversion of Vengeance:Vengeance inciters: Thinking someone has (1) taken themfor granted, (2) used them, (3) not listened to them ordismissed them, or (4) hurt other peopleVengeance behavior-related thoughts: Categorizing theother person in a variety of negative ways, from being rudeto having deeply rooted character flaws; deciding to makethe other invisible by completely ignoring him or herThe development work for going beyond Vengeance:Ask yourself this question - Am I expressing my own needsand my own feelings directly and in real-time?Type twovengeance

Type threeHere is the way in which Threes engage inthinking that can be understood as theirversion of Vengeance:Vengeance inciters: Thinking someone has (1) made themlook bad, (2) sabotaged them, (3) blamed them for aproblem that was not the Three’s responsibility, or (4) takencredit for what was the Three’s workVengeance behavior-related thoughts: Dismissing theperson as a “loser;” thinking of ways to not have to engageor interact with that personThe development work for going beyond Vengeance:Ask yourself this question - Am I willing to discloseinformation that may not make me look good or may notconform with my “public” image?Habits of Mind

Type fourHere is the way in which Fours engage inthinking that can be understood as theirversion of Vengeance:Vengeance inciters: Thinking someone has (1) ignored orslighted them, (2) demeaned them in any way, (3) implicitlycompared them to another in a way that has the Four as“less than,” or (4) misunderstood and violated the Four’svaluesVengeance behavior-related thoughts: Thinking of themany ways in which that person is a perpetrator abusinginnocent victims, or has an over-inflated sense of self andthen thinking about how to bring that person “down to size”The development work for going beyond Vengeance:Ask yourself this question - Am I displaying my objectivityand emotional balance?vengeance

Type fiveHere is the way in which Fives engage inthinking that can be understood as theirversion of Vengeance:Vengeance inciters: Thinking someone has (1) violatedtheir privacy, through breaking confidence as an example,(2) kept information from them, especially importantinformation to the Five, (3) lied – for example, said theywould deliver work on time and then not done this, or (4)made unreasonable or not-agreed-to demands on themVengeance behavior-related thoughts: Thinking andstrategizing how to neutralize that person, keep them at adistance; if the other person has done something thatscares the Five or violates deeply held values, strategizinghow to get that person removed and harmlessThe development work for going beyond Vengeance:Ask yourself this question - Am I expressing my real feelingsin the moment?Habits of Mind

Type sixHere is the way in which Sixes engage inthinking that can be understood as theirversion of Vengeance:Vengeance inciters: Thinking someone has (1) put pressureon them, (2) been deceptive and is, therefore, dangerous,(3) appeared insincere and, therefore, cannot be trusted,or (4) acted abusively and needs to be stoppedVengeance behavior-related thoughts: Thinking abouthow to keep themselves and others safe from this person,which may include disarming the otherThe development work for going beyond Vengeance:Ask yourself this question - Am I differentiating accuratelybetween my projections and insights?vengeance

Type sevenHere is the way in which Sevens engage inthinking that can be understood as theirversion of Vengeance:Vengeance inciters: Thinking someone has (1) tried to limitthem, (2) not listened to them or taken their ideas seriously,(3) been insincere and, therefore, cannot be trusted, or (4)acted (or is thinking about acting) abusively and needs tobe stoppedVengeance behavior-related thoughts: Thinking aboutthe avalanche of negative stories about the perpetratorthey can share with as many people as possibleThe development work for going beyond Vengeance:Ask yourself this question - Am I willing to deal with andstay focused on painful and difficult issues?Habits of Mind

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